This book is one you won’t want to miss. Not only is it a great read, as Dr. Stella Resnick of one of those rare sexperts who walks her talk and can WRITE her own books (sorry, folks, most how-to books have ghosts behind the keyboard), but her message is so strong and gives us all hope: Yes, we can!! Yes, we CAN overcome the lust-love dilemma. I don’t know of many other books that get at the roots of the issue so thoroughly or with such pizzazz and wisdom. This is a self-help book, with a structured program embedded inside of the wise commentary and illustrations of how to move back to a sizzle when time has left you walking the desert sands of no-sex coupling.
Btw, most couples I work with are in that sad category of “sexless”, that is having sex less than 6-10 times a year; in fact, most of my couples have stopped being sexual together for years before they seek out my coaching, and have even stopped casual touch.
Here is an excerpt to give you a sense of her spunk and knowledge:
The Wisdom of the Penis, A Delicate Organ
The old term for erection difficulties in impotence, which means weak and powerless. That’s completely inaccurate, because nothing is more powerful than a penis that won’t perform when it really doesn’t want to. A penis has feelings, too…..(p. 146)
(Or, From) Ecstasy: Magical Sex
…. When you start to climax, the orgasms flow one after another, and spread throughout your entire body. You completely surrender, abandoning yourself to this exquisite moment. The boundary between you and your partner seems to melt, and you are soaring through space, one-body boundless, in touch with the eternal. You are experiencing an altered state of consciousness.
It’s been called knock-your-socks-off-sex, peak sex, sacred sex, and cosmic orgasm. When it just happens, it’s very special. The high can last for weeks, with repercussions that may last a lifetime…..(p. 215)
This book will help couples, and you, find the pathway toward healing, overcoming foundational cues from infancy (yes, that far back has wired us for our style of intimacy), and learning how to find sexual happiness if not thriving together for the long haul.
In this wonderful readable and bedroom sidestand must-have book, the author articulates the need for us to understand and integrate the fields of neuroscience, neuroplasticity, attachment theory and style, breathwork, embodied process for accessing emotional states, Gestalt therapy, sex therapy, behavioral change, and the importance of unearthing the essence of being playful. It always reminds me of how dolphins play together and the little known fact about them is that they are one of the few mammal species that have sex for play, not just procreation. Maybe the dolphins know something we don’t? By diving into the literature of different aspects of human growth potential, Stella Resnick has brought out an approach that truly will be able to help couples find the spark again, change the dynamics of being friends or family back to becoming lovers, and overcome the “natural” tendency to lose lust over time in a committed loving relationship. Wahoo, Stella!!!!
Get your copy today….and let me know what you think, please.
Love, Dr. Patti