Set aside at least one hour to conduct the Mirror Activity. This self-viewing exercise is one you can do alone or with a partner. Couples sometimes discover hidden secrets about the other that they never realized were there, such as a delighting in your shoulder formation, a special mole, or a twinkle in the eyes. Use this process to learn how to accept and embrace yourself. It’s created for self-awareness (toward self-acceptance.) It’s not there to give your partner criticizing feedback, only encouragement.

If the constant barrage of “bad news” about war is getting you down for sex, read on. In these difficult times, many couples are feeling pressured to be sexual when all they really want to do is curl up in little balls, be held or just nod off to sleep. Depressive feelings are common during times of such global duress.

Think spring! Even though winter storms may plague your own back yard, and the twitter of little birds comes now and then, springtime is just around the corner. And, when spring is in the air, sex blooms. Yes, it’s time to get ready for cute little lambs scampering around your bedroom and tulips touching. I mean it.

Note: You can use this to supplement your reading “Clearing the Emotions” and “Processing Your Emotions: found on the site.

Clear the emotional blocks so you can experience the pleasures of touch. I am excerpting from the book, The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage (Alpha Books, November 2003), which I co-authored with my dear friend and amazing massage therapist, Helen Hodgson, AKA “Goddess Helen”.

I am suggesting that you try pole dancing. Why? Because it unleashes the wild woman living inside you… and it’s fun. Your partner will love you for it. What more can you ask for?

Here’s my story:

Some of the best things I learned from Cheryl Richardson as my coach were these three things:
1. Think big (cast the dream, create the vision, set the intention)
2. Admit your weaknesses (reality check, honor where you are and are not)
3. Watch for early signs of failing/trouble (early warning signs prevent disaster later on, avoiding denial, breakthrough empowerment happens with early intervention).
Now, if we were to translate these three principles and commands to your sex life, what do you think that would be like?