This is Dr. Patti’s  Model For Working with Clients

What is Sex Coaching?

Sex Coaching is my professional style of sexual education, counseling or therapy. In the early 1990′s I coined this expression to integrate the work that I was doing as a nationally board certified Clinical Sexologist, Sexuality Educator and Personal Coach. I have always admired the work of Thomas Leonard, the developer of coaching as its own profession. Back then I had the privilege of being coached by the best, Julian Cohen and Cheryl Richardson. I utilized some of the principles from that philosophical model for personal empowerment as a component of my working style with clients as their Sex Coach.

So, is it traditional sex therapy?

Not really, although each sex therapist or counselor will tell you that he or she uses a unique model. Often a qualified sexologist will use the PLISSIT model founded by Dr. Jack Annon, which I use in an amended format. P for permission, LI for limited information, SS for specific suggestions and IT (in my model) for intensive training.

Then, how is Sex Coaching different?

Sex Coaching is a mix of these elements:
1) Personalized sexuality information and education
2) Re-directive cognitive processes and mental reframing
3) Emotional balancing
4) Intuitive guidance
5) Behavioral training
6) Resource and referral management

So, you can see it’s not your average bear type of talk therapy. Sex Coaching is really driven by my clients’ desire to set and reach goals for their life’s fulfillment. To my way of thinking, Sex Coaching is not therapy: it doesn’t take a look back at the stumbles and falls of your life. Instead, it takes your hand, placing the power in the dynamic of guiding while empowering you, and it points you toward your dreams. With the focus on a future outcome, you can reach your goals, visions, and wishes and have what you want to manifest in your life. It’s a process, not an event. Sex Coaching involves talking, accessing emotions, practicing a variety of specific exercises, conducting home assignments to do alone or with your partner, reading, watching videos, writing and, most of all, daring to change.

How does Sex Coaching work?

As a sexologist, I have discovered that there are five basic areas that need to be discovered, addressed, unblocked and then aligned.

1) Mind—-information, your self-talk, thinking about sexual performance, capacity for fantasy, troubling thought patterns, such as compulsivity
2) Emotions—the feelings you carry from the past, about your body and body image, what you suppress and express, how you express your emotions, and your capacity for intimacy
3) Body-image issues, knowing how your own sexual pattern works, understanding your own body’s sexual architecture and function, acknowledging your own sexual (dys)functions, learning skills for how to be a successful lover alone or with a partner
4) Energy—sex is all about energy; the build-up, the containment and the expression of energy; in my one-on-one work I am able to observe your energy patterns within yourself and with a partner (even about how your non-physical relationship dynamics) and give coaching feedback for handling this often overlooked part of your sexuality
5) Spirit—that essence of self; those esoteric moments or practices that transcend the moment, such as peak orgasm experiences; sacred sexuality; the more subtle and delicate manner in which you deny or reflect your inner self through your sexuality; the path of sex to experience the Divine or God

It’s my observation and experience that for most people all FIVE elements must be in alignment for sex to be the most fulfilling in your life. I work to help you do just that.

What are some common sexual problems or concerns and how can Sex Coaching help?

For men:
Erectile dysfunction (not being able to get or keep an erection when you want)
Ejaculatory Control issues (not being able to control when you release at orgasm to ejaculation—early ejaculation being the most common, and including delayed ejaculation and learning how to reach multiple orgasms)
Lack of sexual desire
Lack of genital sensation
Body image issues, such as shame about penis size
Lack of skills for being a successful lover
Sexual shyness or inexperience
Lack of dating and/or social skills
Sexual shutdown (numbness with or about sex)
Relationship conflicts (including power struggles, lack of communication or negotiation skills, uneven desire, performance anxiety, anger or resentment…)
Kink, fetish and BDSM sexuality

For women:
Orgasm difficulties (Inability to reach orgasm alone and/or with a partner; fear of letting go)
Painful sex (dryness, vaginismus, pelvic pain disorders requiring a non-medical approach)
Lack of sexual desire
G Spot orgasms
Lack of skills for being a successful lover
Sexual shutdown (numbness with or about sex)
Relationship conflicts (including power struggles, lack of communication or negotiation skills, uneven desire, performance anxiety, anger or resentment…)
Kink, fetish and BDSM sexuality

Who can use Sex Coaching?

Any adult, really. I work with men, women and couples. Even teens are welcome to access the wide range of information available at our site for their protection and wellness. My work is gay/lesbian/trans-friendly, although the main approach on this site and in one-on-one sessions is heterosexually oriented.

What are the unique characteristics of this site and the Sex Coaching approach?

Well, there are many similarities with other methods for healing sexual concerns. Yet, we are also erotophilic. I believe and I coach that individuals and couples can benefit greatly from integrating the use of porn or erotic materials into their sexual repertoire. Sex Coaching is all about sexual enhancement, not just fixing what ails ya. I work with you to empower your sexual experience toward real and positive results, never pathologizing your sexuality. In my one-on-one work, I offer the specialized personal intensive training for women known as “orgasm-directed coaching” based on the model created by Betty Dodson, my mentor and friend, which includes the five elements (scroll back to the five elements) and emphasizes body coaching awareness exercises in my office.

What is the Sex Coach mission?

As your Sex Coach my motto is “Celebrate your sexual self!” Because one-on-one Sex Coaching and other forms of sex therapy require time, money and geographical availability, I have dedicated myself to making this website a virtual reflection of my approach.

What can you expect to gain from using the website?

· A expert insider’s perspective on sex, love and intimacy
· Fresh ideas
· A variety of sexual enhancement techniques
· Arousal materials
· Sharing and support
· Skill-based options
· Accessories for your sexual pleasure
· Up-to-date credible information
· Networking
· Fun and entertainment
· Mind/emotions/body/spirit expansion
· Chance to communicate your views
· A place to find tolerance and acceptance
· Participation in community
· A sexological spin on the world
· Communication with like minded people

What else?

So, click away and enjoy our website. If you need personal one-on-one work with me, contact me to set up a virtual appointment by phone, email or an in person visit. You’ll find this may be the pivotal and transformational moment of your life! You can email me directly at: drpattixox@aol.com or leave me a message on the voicemail at: (323) 405-7169 anytime.

How Sex Coaching Works by Telephone

Does telephone coaching work as well as in person?
The answer is a resounding “YES!” Telephone coaching is the primary way that most life or business coaches connect with their clients. Believe it or not, many of our own clients report that using the telephone is far more powerful than in person.

Why? Maybe because of these reasons:
There is no commute on the freeway or waiting for your seat on the subway.
The visual distractions never get in the way, such as asking yourself, “Is my makeup runny?” or “Am I in yesterday’s rumpled clothing?”
You are using only one of the senses (your hearing) through which communication becomes pure and direct.
We have found that some of the sessions that have been conducted by telephone have taken the client to greater depths of disclosure and inner truth than most in-person will ever allow.

We also can use Skype to work with you; however, the bumpy audio may be distracting. We upon occasion will do video conferencing. Ask us about that option after we have established our sex coaching relationship.

How does it work?

The way it works is this: Either by a brief telephone call or by email we set up a time for you to call for your session. (We are on Pacific Time, 3 hours behind NYC, for example). You simply call the West Los Angeles office number at the designated time and have your session.

What are the usual results?

Usually it takes at least three sessions to get to change and feel progress. We recommend that you commit to a minimum of working with us for a six-month period. Then you assess your results. At that time you may decide to renew or to move toward terminating the work. This is done as a joint decision-making process, always with YOUR highest needs in mind. Clients report dramatic results, especially if they show up on time, take this seriously, integrate the sex coaching suggestions for change that are offered, and do the home assignments.

How long are sessions? How do we set this up?

The sessions last one full hour; and if you happen to be working as a couple and cannot be on two phones on the same line, we can use a conference call center. The conference call center option must be arranged in advance.

How does this actually work?

We usually spend the first session talking about the problems, concerns, goals and/or issues. We also talk about solutions right away. Much of our work together is based on what you do as a person (or if you are a couple) in-between sessions… There are home assignments, sometimes writing, and certainly re-thinking or implementing practice of new ideas and behaviors that move you toward your goals. We work toward future outcomes, not focusing much on the past. Once we gather the necessary background information on each of you (such as your relationship history)—that is, why you are here today—things move forward quite quickly. The process is goal-focused, present-centered and results-driven.

Before you begin, it is our policy to get a BRIEF description of what is the issue or concern that brought you to us, before having our first call. This is done in a short phone call before you have decided to work with us. After our initial or first actual phone session, we may then send you (or both of you if you are a couple) an intake form by email, which you return. Often we speak with each person individually after the first session to address the past issues and have “private time” without the other partner being present, if you are here as a couple. Having a chance for “private air time” is one of the hallmarks of helping couples to reach their mutual goals.

Who Are Our Associates?

We work with specially trained associates who can offer you reduced fees for sessions, under Dr. Patti Britton’s supervision. Ask for those options, especially if you require financially reduced sessions and/or you would like to be able to select another Sex Coach. Robert Dunlap, Ph.D. and Master Certified Sex Coach, is one of our seasoned and trained associates, who specializes in clinical sexology, sex coaching, aphrodisiacs, and media. He can be reached directly at: robert@redprods.com or leave a voicemail with us at (323) 405-7169. Go to: www.drrobertdunlap.com for more information.

Is this work private?

All sessions are confidential and private. This is very powerful work, it goes fast, and is different for each client or couple. During our session, extensive confidential, coded notes are always recorded; and if you wish, you can also arrange for a telephone recording of your session, in advance. There is a small fee to cover recording costs and shipping is extra.

Payment options

Payment may be made in the form of cash, check or credit card charges to your VISA, Master Card or AMEX for a small processing fee. All checks can be made out to: Dr. Patti Britton, PO Box 2220, Beverly Hills, CA 90213.

Discounts

If 4 sessions are booked in advance and pre-paid, there may be a discount. Therefore, for 4 for 3 sessions in a row, the fees may be lower. Prepayment packages beyond the standard 4 for 3 are negotiable.

Fees

Fees are based on a one-hour session as follows: By telephone or in person = $180 per hourly session and pro-rated for more time spent in session: 1/4 hours are billed at $45 each. Clients working with Dr. Patti have ongoing courtesy check-in’s by phone or brief emails of no more than 10 minutes each; anything more than that time is billable. All mentor coaching fees are pre-paid each month. Payment plans may be arranged in advance with Dr. Britton. No one is ever turned away from services because of inability to pay.

Emails vs. sessions

For most of our work, it is best to keep a journal of your thoughts, feelings, observations and behavioral assignments, and use the journal for the discussions we have during our live sessions. If you use emails in between sessions to communicate with me instead of during sessions, we will re-assess the use of emails vs. sessions in a live session. Emails are for your informing me of changes to our scheduled appointments; they should be used for your growth only at a minimum. Any emails that are beyond the usual one page in length are billable at $25 per email communication between us. Please use our live sessions not emails for updating, processing your journey, and working through why you are here in the first place.

Couples’ intensives

Couples’ intensives (weekends and/or overnights) are set according to individual need. Most one-day intensives for a couple are set at $1000. With overnight accommodations that we can set for you, either in Los Angeles or in Lake Arrowhead, CA, the rate is $1,300 with an AM session the following day. For a 1.5 day intensive, the rate is $1,800. Plans for all overnight stays must be made in advance. For overnight stays, plenty of advance notice is required.

[Most fees are negotiable. No client is ever turned away due to inability to pay. Payment programs are available upon request.]

“Celebrate your sexual self!”

Love and Light,

Dr. Patti